So, wedding planning. My go – to phrase for the planning
process has been “Oh, I don’t care”, which is really not a helpful statement
when you’re somebody who really does deeply care; kind of makes things
difficult. But it’s true. Basically, if by the end of the evening I’m Mrs Brianne
Elizabeth Stuchberry, then the night was a success! I could get married in the parking lot of the McDonalds, as long as I'm married by the end of it. The rest of it is just
little details that people get soo caught up in, and while most would think I would
be a massive Bridezilla jackass (myself included, full disclosure), I just
haven’t been. Atleast, not yet. As one of my bridesmaids lovingly said when I told her I wouldn't be an asshole: "Oh don't worry, you will be at one point, but I'll still love you". I know my day will be beautiful, and I am hiring professionals to
take care of it for me so that I don’t need to get caught up in the details
such as “Who will be pre-filling the water glasses?” did you know that was a real question!? Neither did I. I kept thinking to myself, “Okay, I know what I
want to wear & my look, I know my colors and my general ‘theme’, I know
what color I want Jake to wear, and I know what my bridesmaids are going to
wear – I’m pretty much done! That was super easy.”
Come on now, everybody! HAHAHAHAHA OKAY BRIANNE.
Hahaha*help me pinterest
didn’t let on that there was so much more detail involved* hahaha
Yeah, it’s way more difficult than that, even if you’re
someone who generally doesn’t give a flying fuck what your guests eat, as long
as they don’t get food poisoning. I wanted a smokey/burger bar because I love
smokies unnecessarily so, but that was promptly shut down as tacky. Not by me,
or the Groom, but by one of the many who have opinions on this day. Ohhhhhh,
the opinions. I have found that while everyone who offers opinions mean well, it’s like asking when you’re going to have kids:
don’t do it unless the topic is brought up by the person in question. Like,
unless I ask you: “what color should my napkins be?” don’t tell me what color
you think they should be. Or what color brings out your eyes best for the linens. Or what your third cousin did for their table scape
that was just so darling and that we should definitely do. And especially,
please don’t get offended when I tell you that’s probably not the direction we’ll
be taking. This is not to say that some opinions haven't been bangers, I just did not expect the sheer volume I'd be receiving.
Overall, we’ve been pretty good about the planning and being on the same page. Namely, we were insistent that we were not going to go over our budget, we were not going to borrow money to pay for the day with say a line of credit etc, and we were not going to lose sight of what the day was: the beginning of our marriage. Will it be gorgeous, extremely romantic and a super fun party? Shit yea, but all of those things will not add up to digging ourselves out of debt afterward. I asked Jake from the get go: How much or how little do you want to be involved in the planning? His response was “let’s go with ruffle, cammo & machine gun theme” so you know, he wanted – and received! – very little input into the minute, nitty gritty details, but as we do with everything, I ran the bottom lines past him before making a decision. Teamwork makes the dreeeeam work. Truth is, I have the most talented (in my humble opinion) wedding décor/planner extraordinaire helping me, so that’s really helped with the blasé attitude. I know Sara is going to absolutely rock the shit out of this, so why be concerned? She’s my people, she swears like a sailor and I love her for it. Fun fact, when Jake & I first started even talking, she was the first person I told. It happened to be when she first began Top Knot Events, so our joke for a while was “K well I’m doing your wedding then obviously” and finally, I get to use her magic myself.
All of the major vendors are nailed down, minus floral, which
I’m really working hard on that whole “Oh, that’s okay I don’t care about that, we can
just DIY if we have to”, but really, I do care about that and would very much
love to get that nailed down. I texted Sara, “On a scale of 1-10, how ghetto is it
to have silk bouquets instead of real flowers?” Her: “Ummm, no fucking comment”.
Like, see?! That honest opinion with a solid fuck thrown in for good measure? Refreshing. She makes
me want to have several vow renewals at interval anniversaries.
Hahaha just kidding, No, she doesn’t. Nothing could make me want to do this more than once. Big picture person who's bad at details trying to figure out how many outlets the venue has? You figure out how well that’s going down. That being said, the more things are getting nailed down, and the more the months fly by - no really, they are fly-yy-ying, my butterflies just get bigger and bigger. I may not want to do this more than once, but you bet your ass I'm going to enjoy the absolute hell out of this one <3
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